And With It We Curse Men

There’s so much of it going around these days. It’s easy to overlook. It’s easy to participate in, almost unwittingly. We do it in side comments. We do it in Facebook posts. We do it silently in our hearts. We curse people.

Now, we’re not calling down fire from heaven on people. Oh wait, in some cases we are. The politically charged atmosphere of this year’s presidential election is a prime example. Some of the tweets I’ve seen out there are unsuitable to post here.

My first reaction is, quite honestly, one of internal anger. I see the things people write about other people and I get angry. I think to myself, “Wow, that person is the stupidest person I’ve ever seen.” I’ll murmur under my breath, “What an idiot.” “Are all Democrats that stupid?”

It’s the same programmed response to someone cutting me off on the highway. Anger. Even hatred at times. I’m ashamed that is the case for me. It seems to be the case for the vast majority of people, though. Well, maybe I should qualify that. It seems to be the case for the vast majority of people who open their mouths.

As a Christian, I cannot possibly reconcile this reality with what I know about Christ and His love for me. Since the way we speak is such a hot topic in America, I think it is extra poignant that the Bible teaches caution in our speech. Here’s a particularly convicting text, from James 3.

(9) With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. (10) Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. (11) Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? — James 3:9-11

Where does this hate speech begin, though? We don’t really have to go very far to figure it out. Luke 6 makes it plain:

(43) “No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. (44) Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. (45) A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

Hatred comes from the heart. From deep down in who we are. There is a tendency to think and speak ill of those who oppose us or our views, or who live somewhere else, or look different, or vote different. This is a terrible truth that brings to the surface our own evil.

We can say we’re surprised by it, but should we be? We Christians ought to be examining our speech daily. Any by examining our speech I mean that we should examine our hearts. Any by examining our hearts I mean that we should give ourselves biblical counsel because “we are not our own, we were bought with a price.” We ought to remember that we were not called because of our intellectual prowess or stunning good looks. We should press the refresh button of the Gospel story every day so that we can hear it as if for the first time. We were sinners, separated so much from God that it brought death. Yet in His unfailing love we have forgiveness and redemption through Jesus Christ. Undeserved grace. Mercy unbound. Joy inhuman.

Let us curse less as we remember more… and more often.

Family Fun Vacation Day

Had a fun day at home with my wife and son today. Sometimes it’s all I can ask for when taking a vacation day to go most of the day with little or no interruptions from the office. Today worked out quite well, as there were really no calls from work and only a few easily-handled emails.

In the morning we took Aiden to the fairgrounds. Alas, it was not for The Fair, but rather to vote in the Presidential Election. We did our best to explain to him the value of the privilege. Most of it is lost on his 5-year-old mind, but perhaps when he grows up the image of it will be a strong imprint.

Then we made our way to Target and did a little shopping, plus we got Mommy a coffee treat in the form of a Chai Tea Latte. I’m not a drinker of “treat-style” coffee drinks, so I passed on anything from Fourbucks and simply waited until we got home to brew my own coffee.

The morning passed with some leaf-raking and yard clean-up, as well as a bit of quiet and leisure. After left-overs we headed to Hinckley Lake to enjoy a long walk and some half-way snacks that we obtained from the boat house mid-way point. The boy jumped and ran and bounced his way along while we towed the dog with us. Everyone had a very good time.

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After we returned home, Allyson decided to continue some yard work, part of which was the trimming of our infamous Front Rose Bush. It’s a hearty climbing rose that blooms and blooms every year, but has taken over a bit in recent years. Here are some photos of her trimming and surveying her work.

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Some days are just more hopeful than others. I think the Sun has something to do with that, but only in part. The uneventful, family-style nature of this day has been a real treat to my soul. I am grateful for my small tribe and the sweetness of days like today.

Longings of the Human Heart

In Psalm 89 the writer shares this:

Righteousness and justice are the foundation of your throne; steadfast love and faithfulness go before you.

When I look at the world today I see a longing for these very things. When people rant about their political ideals, they’re longing for justice or righteous behavior on the part of others. When we read the news and see atrocities committed against people, we long for the offenders to be brought to justice.

20121104-093852.jpgThere is no worldly fix for the all the problems we face in life. The steadfast love and faithfulness of God are the only things that can solve our worldwide problems. But the earth is not a final resting place for all of its inhabitants! While we should work for justice in the world today, loving the orphan and the widow, we ought not to do it from the perspective that we’re simply making their lives here easier, or preparing them to have greater earthly success.

In the grand scheme our helping of others ought to be done in as an act of love to the great Lover, Jesus himself. In the midst of all our service and seeking after justice, we ought to know exactly why we are engaging in whatever activities we are involved in.

Are we doing things in order to check some items off our moral to-do list? Are we involved in church activities because we need to feel good about ourselves? Or do we have hearts aligned with our King, whose heart longs for righteousness and justice? Anytime is a good time to examine our own motives and to try to align ourselves to the heart of God.

Easily Distracted–Technology, Life, Control

I had considered a lengthy sub-title for this post. Perhaps something like this: “the unseen and potentially dire consequences of surrendering our life’s control to technology.” Then I got to thinking about aesthetics and blog post titles… figured it would be better to just keep it short.

The world is more connected than ever by technology, and our lives are more than ever dominated by that same technology. Many of us read the news online, follow several blogs (or dozens), rabidly monitor our Facebook and Twitter feeds, “pinning” and “liking” scattered items across the Internet.

These things connect us in so many ways and make information so extremely accessible. This accessibility is part of what leads us to engage in our technology more and more. It used to take a great deal more effort to engage with technology. Now I can simply pull my phone from my pocket and watch a video on YouTube, stream a newscast, check and send email, take a photo, text my wife, read/write a blog post, post to Twitter, add a Facebook friend, update my apps, buy a song, check stocks, play music, send a file…you get the idea.

With all of these things right at our fingertips, it’s a wonder we do much of anything else. I’m realizing that this train of thought is normal for me. Did a quick search on my own site here on the word “information.” Seems I’ve contemplated some of this before. I’m not concerned that the medium is bad or evil, but that in unseen ways we are distracted by it and even controlled by it. Our minds wonder about it when we’re away from it…and therefore we are distracted by it in our hearts.

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We also wander when we’re engaged actively with it. This comes in the form of clicking a link out of curiosity and then spending the next 30 minutes on a rabbit trail of posts and links and articles that really have little to no actual impact on our lives, other than to keep us from doing something truly important at hand (whatever that may be for you or me). Most of what we touch in the world of technology is tied to the Internet and therefore a gazillion “other” things than the one thing we began with.

I think this is hard to talk about and write about for several reasons. Two of the most significant reasons that I’ve wrestled with as I’ve thought this through are these:

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Simple, huh? When we start asking questions about existing patterns in our lives, there is an immediate discomfort and internal squirming. Our heart begins right away to say, “This is for other people, not me,” or, “Boy, I’m sure glad Chad (or whoever) is starting to focus in on this, it’s obviously a big deal for him,” or, “Nope, I don’t have a problem at all, I’m good.” None of us wants to admit that we might have a problem. If we do, of course we’d most likely prefer to not change, because we like our problems.

A few years ago I wrote a song lyric that identifies with this thought:

so won’t you please just step away
i’m not sure i need you around
pretty sure i can do this on my own
down here in my misery
i’ve got perfect company
me and my sin, we feel right at home

On the surface I don’t really want anyone telling me I’m a sinner. I don’t really want you digging into my life and finding out that I’m not everything you had hoped for. Being known, being revealed is not exactly a comforting thought to us. We’d all prefer that people go on thinking we are the truly wonderful people we’re made out to be from a distance.

What does all of this have to do with control? I think we need to be vigilant with regard to our sin. The verse that keeps going through my mind is this:

12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
– Hebrews 12:1-2

We run, as the psalmist says, “in the path of [His] commands, because [He] has set our hearts free.” When we use technology it is worth our consideration to ask, “Is this a hindrance of any kind to my running this race (life) with perseverance?” Though we may be afraid to ask it, or maybe even if we already know the answer and don’t like it, we should ask, “Is the time I’m spending with this technology and all the associated spiritual space it takes up in my life keeping me from fixing my eyes on Jesus?”

Are we the ones with the control of the technology in our lives or is technology controlling us? Are we wise enough to ask these questions and humble enough to receive instruction from God in these issues?

Welcome Back, Voller

Chad Profile PicAt some point in the past I decided to let go of my domain name, chadvoller.com. The thought occurred to me, “I don’t really need this domain name, and I have a catchy one, asformeandmyblog.com.” Alas, I found myself wanting it back, and after more than a year I was able to grab it again. There is another Chad Voller out there, which I find somewhat odd, since my last name is uncommon, but hey, go figure. I think he owns a business of some kind in Wisconsin or Minnesota.

 

What We’ll See

Once in a while inspiration for a song strikes, and at the same time I’m ready to capture it permanently. Yesterday, that happened. As I woke up the following lyrics came to me, tune in my head, and I penned this first draft of a new song, which I later played at the house show that night.

Suffering in this life has many purposes, I think, but one of those, for sure, for the Christian, is to remind him of his hope in God, and to keep his eyes fixed on the glory that will one day be revealed. Romans 8:18 reads, “For I consider that the sufferings of this present world are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us (ESV).” Here are the lyrics for “What We’ll See.”

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Her Mom died from cancer and a few years later Grandmother the same
Everything right-side-up was up-side-down and our lives forever changed
It took years to make it through it
Though in our minds we knew it
All things work toward good for those who love the Lord

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I believe Lord, I believe
Help me in my unbelief
Take the darkness from my eyes
Take the veil down from my heart and let me see
That these present pains and troubles,
all this heartache and these struggles
are all nothing when compared to your glory and what we’ll see

verse 2

Early onset Alzheimer’s caught up with my mom at 59
Now she’s mostly partly there as disease rushes in and steals her mind

Dad stands by so strong, living up to his vows that
only death can separate them through these years
And the questions keep on coming, I feel like in my soul I’m running
both to and from the answers that I fear

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verse 3

Years ago we tried and tried
Desperately to have a child,
Coming from our bodies, just our own
Had we had that dream back then,
We never would have seen the plan
That God brought in from outside to our home

Hollowness had filled us up, all we saw was the empty cup
We had to press so hard just not lose our minds
But the truth we mostly hardly see is that in beauty, pain and mystery
He makes all things beautiful in HIs time

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Jeremy Casella House Show (with Chad Voller)

Wanna hear the guy whose record beat both Switchfoot and Derek Webb in the 2007 Christianity Today’s Top 10 Albums of the Year?

Wanna hear him right here in Medina, OH at a house show for only $10?

I’ll be opening for my friend and recording artist, Jeremy Casella, this Friday, September 7th, at 7 p.m. Here are the details…

House Show with Jeremy Casella
This Friday, September 7th
8755 Friendsville Rd
Seville, OH 44273

Cost: $10/person, $20/family
Call or text me for more info: 440-991-7679

Proceeds to benefit Cups Cafe (http://cupscafe.org) coffee house in Medina, OH.

Jeremy’s Website: http://jeremycasella.com
Jeremy on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremycasellaUS

Jeremy’s album Recovery received 5 out of 5 stars in Christianity today and was voted Indie Album of the Year, as well as #4 on the top 10 albums of the year. That year he beat out music icons Derek Webb and Switchfoot in the top 10!

Buy his music: http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/recovery/id256500742

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Better Friends in Spite of the Weather

The weather today is rather tame in contrast to my wedding day 15 years ago. I was unprepared in many ways for this journey of marriage. Though about to begin our senior year of college together, we were together largely ignorant to the pains and pleasures of a long-term commitment like this.

That day was unrelentingly hot and humid. We were getting married outdoors, in her backyard. You have to know that when I say “her back yard,” I really am talking about a piece of paradise created and nurtured by her mother and father. Acres of bliss with immaculate flowers and trees, lined with a playful mini-forest that was home to a mighty creek. It was a childhood fantasy for her to have grown up there, something that you read about in books. THAT was her back yard, and we were getting married there, at the gazebo her father had built specially for the occasion. A beautiful scene.

She was amazingly gorgeous on her way down the aisle, stunningly and elegantly beautiful, next to her adoring father who I can imagine was filled with thoughts and emotions that only a father could understand. In my heart and mind the whole thing was one big, “Wow. Just wow.” The collected friends and family, the years of my life coming down to a moment, the following down a trail blazed by our parents and others before us, and the incredible woman walking toward me. It was quite a moment in time.

Then, a short while into the reception, the heavens opened and poured thunderous rain down on us, nearly collapsing the tent that was set up for the event. A young cousin was missing for some time while we feared the roaring creek may have gotten the best of her, only to find her playing in a mini-van nearby. Some guests took the divine intervention as a sign and left for home while some simply enjoyed the chaos of the moment. Allyson downed a few extra gulps of champagne and wondered if things could get any worse. Somehow we made it through the excitement and no one was too much worse for the wear. Phew!

Fifteen years later we can say that we’ve been through difficult times. The year after we married her mother drew ill with luekemia and passed away in June. Following were several years of working through that with the associated pain and struggles in our relationship and with others. We were barren, too, to make things worse, when we wanted so desperately to have children. We tried for years after moving to Ohio, only to be met with constant disappointment.

Personal sin of mine cost me my ministry and income, deeply and profoundly wounding my wife, but she forgave me and stayed with me, loving me beyond what I deserved. We’ve also lost my grandparents and all but one of hers during these years, and several years ago learned of my mother’s decline into early onset Alzheimer’s, affecting her at the young age of 60.

“What’s the weather like today?” you may ask. My iPhone can tell me what the weather services have predicted regarding today’s forecast, and even a few days ahead. The truth is, though, no one knows. No one can tell you what is coming next in your life, no matter how convincing they are. No one can foresee the difficulties or troubles that are right around the corner for you. No one can guarantee that you’ll be happy or successful or that your life will be filled with every kind of joy imaginable. It doesn’t work that way. You know what I’ve learned about that, though? It’s ok.

It’s ok because in the end it is not we, but God who is in control of this life. It’s ok because the rain falls on the just and the unjust alike. It’s ok because we came into this world naked and we’ll leave naked. In all of the in between turmoil, sweat, joy, sorrow, growth and pain there is One who holds the universe in His hands. And in the end, all will be made right by Him. In the end His plan of redemption and renewal will be fulfilled because no one can thwart His purposes. Had we been blessed with biological children, we never would have opted for the fostering route. We then would never have met our son. How ya like them apples? We got a son!

It’s easy to look at the weather and curse it. When it’s dry we want rain. When it rains we want cloudless skies. Through all the weather of our lives, though, God is faithful. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. I’m holding onto that truth with a tight grip these days. In spite of all the weather we’ve endured, Allyson and I are better friends for it. It never occurred to me that we wouldn’t make it this far in our marriage, because it was never an option for either of us when we said our vows. Still, though, the faithfulness of God in the midst of our lives has drawn us deeper into each other, and for that I am grateful today.

DotNetNuke vs WordPress #10 – Community and Support

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Community and Support

There are a few factors that I think make DotNetNuke a better online community, not the least of which is size. The DotNetNuke community is so much smaller (by millions) in size than the WordPress community. The WordPress community then, by default, cannot feel like  a small, family atmosphere. There are simply too many to expect any significant feeling of real fellowship among them.

The DotNetNuke online community, however, has an extended-family feel to it online. If you ask a question on Twitter with the #DotNetNuke hashtag, you’ll probably get a response from someone in the community, if not someone from DotNetNuke corporation itself, within an hour or less (more often within several minutes).

Now, it seems there would be more of this type of Q&A and camaraderie happening on the WordPress front, since it’s so huge and has also been around for several years. Alas, it seems there are precious few WordPress gurus, admins, friends and hacks that spend any amount of time online (at least on Twitter, which to me seems a good measure) responding to and assisting others with problems, helpful links, etc.

I’m still not sure that WordPress should take a hit just because it has such a huge user base. It’s just that I’ve never really found WordPress people particularly helpful. Now and again you’ll find a plugin developer or theme provider that has excellent support, but as I mentioned in a previous post in this series, your interpretation of “good support” has an awful lot to do with your own expectations. You can get bad support for just about any product out there, and I’ve had bad support for both WordPress and DotNetNuke products.

The wordpress.org site, with its extensive cache of plugins and themes, offers generally good support within that framework. The dotnetnuke.com site is also full of forums and free extensions, so users can ask questions and get help with just about anything. Something tells me, though, that most of the folks who help and support in the DotNetNuke community would generally give you the shirt off their back as well as help you with your website. There’s a warmth and a brotherhood of sorts among DNN people that you just don’t get on the WordPress side.

I suppose this post is entirely my opinion, and I could be very wrong about the WordPress community. There are bound to be pockets of users and groups in that world that I simply haven’t heard of yet or found. Perhaps I’m looking in all the wrong places (hmmm, sounds like a good line for a song…).

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DotNetNuke vs WordPress #9 – Hosting Solutions and Costs

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Hosting Solutions and Costs

Lazy or busy, take your pick. Either way, I haven’t made the time to keep going on #9 in this series in several weeks. I must finish the series, though. I’m tired of starting things in my life and not finishing them. Besides, writing this post from Linux Mint-Maya vm is just fun. I’m using the blogging software called Blogilo to pen this chapter of the series.

When it comes to hosting and solutions for WordPress or DotNetNuke, it really comes down to the OS and platform that they run on. WordPress can essentially be run on free software. Since you can throw together a LAMP server at such a lower cost than you can a Windows server, DotNetNuke doesn’t really even compete when it comes to costs. WordPress bloggers can run their websites on some of the cheapest plans on earth. You just can’t do that when you’re running Windows. Of course, Windows can run all of the components to support WordPress, but WordPress isn’t nearly as happy when running on Windows, so I suggest you stick with a Linux server when hosting WordPress sites.

Just because DotNetNuke runs on Windows, though, doesn’t mean you can’t find good hosting solutions in a shared environment. Most end-users will be running their website in shared environment, so if you look for it there are viable solutions out there. There are several reliable DotNetNuke hosting providers out there that won’t cost you an arm and a leg. 3Essentials has been my host for years (and I seriously cannot recommend anyone as highly as I can these guys… they know their stuff!), and they have Windows plans that fit into just about anyone’s budget. Not everyone has to host their site at PowerDNN to be a legitimate DotNetNuke site. More expensive doesn’t always mean better.

Sometimes, though, you do need to spend some good money to support your website. If you expect a lot from your hosting solution, and you plan to have a large site with substantial traffic, you’ll want to sign up for a dedicated server. You can add features to a dedicated server, and you can also run multiple websites on it, so you can spread the cost out overy your clients if you’re in business for yourself. If you don’t want the hassel of supporting the operating system and doing all of the server configurations for your dedicated server, you can order a managed server.

With managed servers (more expensive), the hosting provider does the OS maintenance for you and provides a greater feature set for your server. You typically get more memory, processing power, and various features to help you run your website and/or business. You may not get direct access to web server (since your host would want to be in control of system changes and updates), but you do gain some peace of mind from knowing that your server is going to be well-maintained.

For the adventurous entrepreneur who wants to get their hands on the OS and web server configurations, though, you can go with a cheaper solution in an UNmanaged server. In this scenario, after the OS is installed, you connect via remote desktop and manage the server from the ground up. This can be a lot of fun and a great learning experience, but you better know your stuff if you’re going to choose this route. You’ll need to know how to setup Windows to allow users to connect to your site from the web (or Linux if you’re purchasing that type of server), how to install and run services that power websites, how to configure databases and more. This path is not for the feint of heart.

Well, now where are we? Does WordPress win b/c you can host it for less money? I suppose perhaps it does. There are a lot more hosts out there for WordPress, too. At times, though, I wonder how many of those WordPress “hosts” are simply reselling the hosting services of someone else? That’s a common (and legitimate) business model, so I don’t want to knock it, but still I wonder about it.
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